There is a generation behind you watching your response to your God…our motive for obedience should mature beyond our fear or reverence.”
A little scary to think about when I don't even feel like a full grown adult at 39 years old LOL...but your are so right in regard to our children losing so much respect for the one's they love when they see something in them that is untrustworthy, our children must believe that at the end of the day when they fall asleep at night alone in their bed that we as parents TRULY TRULY love them. I have spoken to so many adult's who look back on their childhood and share they never felt loved by their parent's. I hope the love that my children feel from me will help them want to FORGIVE me when I fall and make errors before their eye's.
| A Trustworthy Parent... |
| Written by david |
| Thursday, 18 June 2009 03:33 |
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I’m reading a book which is turning out to be very influential on my heart. The essence of the writing is a link between “the Church” and “the Family”. So, here is what is being said and I thought I’d share it with you to get some feedback: “The more important way you fight for the heart (of your child) is to build a relationship that is trustworthy.” This is in reference to parenting and how the Bible directs us to raise our kids. The statement isn’t very revolutionary, but it does capture a philosophy of parenting which could prove to generate a incredible parent-child relationship. Another… “Instead of encouraging parents to assume the role of attorneys who build a logical case for why the law should be followed, Moses prompted them to focus on the character of the Lawgiver.” The statement is getting at an incredibly profound parenting technique. Typically, we buy into the idea that we should help our kids understand the “why” to the “rule”. We try to raise them “logically”. This approach is faulty. Show me a kid who, after their parent explain the reason for curfew, actually said, “Wow! Thank you for explaining your reasoning…I completely understand and I will comply.” NO! You’re lying if you know of an example. The author of this quote is driving to this point: We can raise our children better if we raise them to love. The character of the parent is more important than the logical descriptions the parent can provide. If our kids trust us and find us to have great character, our relationship will foster respect and we can raise our children to mature beyond a life of following rules. It like a marriage – the more each spouse demonstrates a good character, the greater the marriage relationship. Here is one last one: “There is a generation behind you watching your response to your God…our motive for obedience should mature beyond our fear or reverence.” Wow…that’s big. |
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A little scary to think about when I don't even feel like a full grown adult at 39 years old LOL...but your are so right in regard to our children losing so much respect for the one's they love when they see something in them that is untrustworthy, our children must believe that at the end of the day when they fall asleep at night alone in their bed that we as parents TRULY TRULY love them. I have spoken to so many adult's who look back on their childhood and share they never felt loved by their parent's. I hope the love that my children feel from me will help them want to FORGIVE me when I fall and make errors before their eye's.